Set up
Use a supported seated or side-lying position. Keep the room warm and make sure both people can change position easily.
Partner massage
Good partner massage starts before the first touch.
Use clear permission, simple techniques, comfortable positioning, and frequent check-ins. The goal is shared comfort, not treatment.
A simple relaxation sequence
Keep it broad, slow, and easy. This is not a treatment routine and should not be used on an injury.
Begin broad
Place a whole hand gently on the upper back, shoulder, hand, or foot. Avoid the spine, front and side of the neck, and injured areas.
Move slowly
Use broad glides or gentle compressions. Start lighter than requested, then ask before increasing pressure.
Close clearly
Lighten the pressure, remove your hands, and ask how the person feels before they stand or move.
Keep it non-clinical
Do not diagnose, manipulate joints, work deeply into the abdomen, or claim to correct an injury.
Respect changing consent
A partner can change their mind, ask to cover an area, or stop without needing to protect your feelings.
Pause for health concerns
New symptoms, recent procedures, pregnancy complications, or a known health condition may require professional guidance first.