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Partner · 6 min

Make the check-in part of partner massage

A simple relaxation massage works better when permission, pressure, position, and stopping are easy to talk about.

Leave withUse a two-minute opening and a simple seated routine.
Two fully clothed adults checking in before a seated shoulder massage
01

Before touch

Ask a question that allows no

Try: Would massage feel good right now? Where would you like touch, what should I avoid, and how will you tell me to change or stop?

  • A no needs no explanation
  • Permission for one area is not permission for another
  • Agree on a stop word or hand signal
02

Keep it simple

Use broad hands and supported positions

Try a supported seat, broad contact over clothing, and slow pressure across the shoulders, hands, or feet. This is relaxation, not treatment.

  • Avoid the spine and front or side of the neck
  • Do not manipulate joints
  • Do not work on an injury
03

Close clearly

Finish lighter than you started

Reduce pressure, remove your hands, and ask how the person feels before they stand or move. Their answer is information, not a grade.

  • Accept changing consent
  • Do not defend a technique that hurt
  • Pause for health concerns

Turn the guide into a plan

Use a two-minute opening and a simple seated routine.

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